Ideally speaking, a point should come
in your relationship when you and your man act as a single organism. You
should be able to take note of the small nuances; it might be a flicker
in his expression, something he says in passing or a subtle change in
attitude. Of course, you are not a mind-reader so sometimes it may be
hard to tell what is going on but the fact that you know something is up
is a good start.
Getting your man to open up about what is biting him can be difficult depending on how tough and
deep he is. But first, what will always work is the assurance that you
are there for him to talk to. Be attentive to him and tell about mundane
things to him. The fact that you are always ready to talk might draw
him out. Also, your past behavior matters. If you are not good at giving
him a listening ear even when you might not have a solution to proffer
might deter him from telling you stuff in the future.
You
should also make sure you keep abreast of happenings in his life. Ask
him how certain things he has talked to you about before are going-
maybe a challenge he is trying to sort out, a job he is chasing down,
someone bugging him at work or issues he is having at school, whatever.
Something he once confided in you about might be the problem he is not
talking to you about now so asking at regular intervals makes him more
willing to talk, even if the topic is hurtful to him.
At
other times, all he may just need is space. Hounding him can cause
trouble. The key thing is to know your man and when to push or let him
come to you.
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