This mentality is mostly applicable to girls aged 18-25 years. These set of girls are just trying to understand life and how their bodies work. They do not understand the meaning of 'bad economy' or 'recession'. They don't understand 'saving for the rainy day' or 'investment.' They believe that all there is to life is their bodies, beauty and looks. They will most likely not be able to offer a man any useful advice about how to plan his life. They don't understand 'cost-saving measures'. They believe any man dating them should pay their bills and give them the comfortability they fantasise. They believe their boyfriends/husbands must provide for them even things their parents couldn't give them quite unlike men that start early to plan how to 'make it' even if their parents didn't really 'make it.'
They are usually very enthusiastic about marriage despite being ill prepared for it. There is a positive relationship between their age of marriage and divorce rate. (Social scientists should do well to carry out a proper research on this).
These set of girls are particularly very insulting, disrespectful and tend to run their mouths. They can talk to anyone anyhow they like. They do not know what they want, they don't even understand themselves. They believe they are doing you a favour by dating you.
This attitude is made worse by the number of admirers they get on a regular basis and the volume of attention they get from men. They can afford to misbehave because the next minute, another guy is walking up to them. They forget that this stage of the prime of their life vanishes faster than it started and thus are more likely to make wrong choices about relationship/marriage partners. At this stage, the qualities they look out for in men do not reflect sound judgment and the realities of life. They need proper guidance on relationship choices to avoid destroying their lives with the wrong men with its dire consequences.
If the said girl is still a virgin, it could be worse. Just expect drama; yes, lots of them as they believe life begins and ends with their 'virginity.'
They tend to admire guys with 'wizkid' kind of dressing, dreadlocks, ridiculous haircuts and some attributes they call 'swag'. If you are not ready to sag your trousers amd wear 'three-quarters' and snap pictures in awkward and lidicrous poses, these girls will not roll well with you.
If you need peace of mind in your home, it should be clear to you that they are psychologically immature for marriage. Go for an older woman or wait for them to understand life better. Unless you are a man with loads of patience, forbearance, understanding and tolerance, these set of girls will provoke you, disorganise you, upset and frustrate you completely. You need to be patient and calm with them as they are given to mood changes and attitude problems. They are more likely to change their minds without warning and without cogent reason; this minute they are saying one thing and the next minute they are nagging about a completely different thing. You will get yourself worked-up trying to figure out what their problem is and how to fix it.
You need to be an extraordinary man to handle them properly and effectively and still retain your sanity.
You need to be ready to apologise even when you are not wrong. If she is wrong, you have to apologise more.
They do a lot of comparisons at this stage. They compare you with their friends' boyfriends, with the movies they watch and the celebrities on social media. They are all out to live their fantasies and anything short of it they begin to complain about virtually everything;
There are few exceptions though but more often than not, 18-25 year old girls tend to fall into this category.
On the other hand, most ladies (not girls) aged 26 and above can distinguish between fantasy and reality. They have seen some 'things' and understand life more deeply. These group of women know you are doing them a favour by dating them. They are more mature and more ready to handle marriage and what comes with running a home. They are very careful, economical, conscientious and foresighted. They understand what love and relationship is.
They can offer a man a useful advice about how to plan for himself and his family. In fact, my best relationship so far was with a lady of about 26 years old. Judith, may GOD bless you wherever you are, it is very unfortunate we can't get married for reasons beyond our control!
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