What to do if you find out your friend’s man is cheating...

This is a scenario no one wants to be caught in. It is like being between the devil and the deep blue sea, except you are ‘bad belle’ and you have been waiting for the doom of the relationship. However, you keep wondering which the lesser evil is: getting involved in such a dicey matter by snitching on the guy or letting sleeping dogs lie and watching a good friend suffer unknowingly.

Many times it is because we don’t want to be the bearer of bad news that we keep quiet but I must say that that is selfish. You don’t want anyone pointing fingers at you so to salvage your pride, you keep quiet, pretty much the same way people keep quiet when they know someone is being abused because don’t want to carry the responsibility of being the snitch. Snitching on the streets is a death sentence but when a loved one is being hurt, I advocate for snitching like you can’t stop talking. 

No matter how your friend loves this guy or devastated she would be when she finds out, it is best she knew. They say what you don’t know can’t hurt you but being turned into a fool and taken for a ride, only to find out a loved one knew all along can hurt like hell. 

Inasmuch as it seems as if I am carrying a placard with the word ‘SNITCH’ boldly written, I expect that it is done sensibly. This kind of truth is too delicate for you to drop like a bomb. Give the guy a chance to redeem himself, especially if he has been really good all this while. But if he does not rise to the occasion by telling her himself and keeps cheating then gently let her know. 

Whatever she does from that point is her decision. Don’t fill her head with what she should do.
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